Muslim mother of four shocked to learn imam blessed Polygamy and husband jumped at the opportunity to cheat.

Hat tip to tnr.
I guess mom didn’t bother to read the pesky koran or she would have known this was at least possible if not probable. To be fair the men are supposed to ask permission to cheat/remarry but you rarely see a brave muslim.

Sooner or later these types of marriages will face a legal challenge and anytime islam is challenged in court that is a good thing. Islam fears scrutiny above all. These marriages just give muslims yet another way to oppress their own families. Female children face honor killings, forced/arranged marriages, no notice divorce, and now they have cheating fathers and it is encouraged by their local imam.

Small wonder muslim youth are messed up mentally.

Noor Javed, 24 May, 2008, The Star
There were no pleasantries, there was no small talk. Safa Rigby had expected to hear her husband’s voice when the phone rang one morning. Instead, the caller didn’t even bother to say hello.

“You think you know your husband. You don’t know him at all,” said the man, a friend of her husband’s. “His car is parked outside my house right now. He is with my ex-wife. They just got married last week,” the man said.

It took a minute for the news to sink in. Then she called her husband of 14 years, demanding to know if what she had just been told was true – that while she spent a year in Egypt raising their four children in a more Islamic environment, he had used it as an opportunity to marry not just one, but two other women in Toronto.
-Lol, what a coward, sends her away for a year because he is scared she might catch him.

“Yes, I’m married,” he said, quashing all her dreams of their future together.

He told her he was married in a small ceremony 20 days earlier, officiated by Aly Hindy, a well-known Toronto imam, at his Scarborough mosque.

“I cried for six days straight. Lost my appetite, ignored the kids, even had to start taking antidepressants,” said Rigby, 35. “What I couldn’t understand was how such a thing could happen in Toronto, my hometown, where polygamy is supposed to be illegal.”

It was easy. He simply found an imam willing to break a Canadian law, in exchange for upholding an Islamic one.
-There are really two crimes here the husband and the imam should face charges.

“Polygamy is happening in Toronto; it’s not common, but it’s happening,” said Hindy, imam at Salahuddin Islamic Centre.

Hindy, hardly a stranger to controversy, is well known for his friendship with the family of Omar Khadr, the young Canadian detainee at Guantanamo Bay, and his outspoken views on the implementation of Islamic law. In the past five years, Hindy said he has officiated or “blessed” more than 30 polygamous marriages; the most recent was two months ago. Even some imams in the GTA have second wives, he added.

“This is in our religion and nobody can force us to do anything against our religion,” he said. “If the laws of the country conflict with Islamic law, if one goes against the other, then I am going to follow Islamic law, simple as that.”
-At least the imam admits muslims can not live up to western standards and that islam is not compatible with democracy.

Those who condone the practice rarely let their views be known, and those who practise it themselves tend to do so in secret, making it difficult to record how many such marriages have taken place in the GTA. Equally hard to determine is how many polygamous families have immigrated to the country, despite a 2005 report commissioned by the federal Status of Women that tried to find out the extent of polygamy and its implications.

But conducting such unions in clear violation of Canadian law is wrong, according to Syed Mumtaz Ali, president of the Canadian Society of Muslims, who speaks frequently on polygamy issues.

“Muslims should not enter into polygamy while they are living in Canada, because the local Canadian law prevails. It overrules the Islamic law if there is a conflict between the two,” he said.
-It should also apply if muslims arrive with multiple wives.

Under the Criminal Code, polygamy was deemed a crime in 1892. Those who enter into reside in, or officiate a polygamous union can be charged with a criminal offence and face up to five years in prison.

But the last time polygamy was prosecuted in Canada was more than 60 years ago. Fundamentalist Mormons in Bountiful, in southeastern British Columbia, have managed to get away with openly practising polygamy, believed to be an integral and necessary part of their faith, since the 1940s with little legal recourse.
-Take note Canadians, write your representatives and demand a crack down.

A raid six weeks ago on a Texas polygamist compound, in which 440 children were seized by child-protection officials, also drew attention to the practice of polygamy and a sect’s religious beliefs. An appeals court, however, ruled this week that the children, members of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, be released.

Islamic laws on polygamy, while based on religious texts, differ from the Mormon example. While the Qur’an permits polygamy, it is not a requirement of the faith – and for those who wish to practise, there are strict conditions: “If you deem it best for the orphans, you may marry their mothers – you may marry two, three, or four. If you fear lest you become unfair, then you shall be content with only one, or with what you already have.”

“The purpose of polygamy was to protect women,” said Shahina Siddiqui, a social worker with the Islamic Social Services Association, who has worked on a number of polygamy cases. “The way it is being done here, it is not just. Second and third wives have no social support, no legal protection, no recourse if things go wrong; that in itself negates the entire premise of the Islamic law. It can’t do what it was meant to do.” Polygamy can work, Siddiqui stresses, if the society is set up for it, if it’s open to it, and if adults consent to it.

Provincial laws do provide some protection for women in polygamous marriages. According to the Ontario Family Act, women who came to Canada with valid polygamous marriage documents can claim spousal support and welfare benefits. While the law has yet to be challenged, it is believed that those married here could also likely do the same on the basis of being vulnerable persons.
-This law needs to be challenged before the minions find out they can get a free ride just by immigration. We have seen the results of uncontrolled appeasement of islam.

“It was about women and their needs back then, but what it is today is about a man wanting to have more women,” said Rigby, who recently moved back to Canada with her children, and has just started the process of separating from her husband, a businessman. “This is their `halal’ form of having an affair.”

Rigby said her husband told her his reasoning for marrying the second wife was to “help” her out of a difficult financial situation. Other polygamists cite marrying divorced women as a means to provide them support or be able to have children if their wives are unable to conceive. In some cases, a wife who is ill will herself begin the process of looking for a spouse for her husband, said Hindy.

“I don’t encourage people to do it, unless they have reason for it. Life ends up being very complicated. You have to jump from one house to another all the time,” he said.

That’s why Hindy advises men to keep the second marriage a secret as long as they can, even from the first wife. There have been instances where he has gone with the men to their homes to share the news with the first wives, in an attempt to help lessen the blow.

Hindy had advised Rigby’s husband to stay quiet. When Rigby emailed Hindy, soon after discovering he had conducted the marriage, he offered little support.

“You have to stand beside him in these difficult times. You should stop causing problems to him. You will not get anything by divorce except destroying your life,” she said he told her.

At that moment Rigby realized how lonely her path would be.

Since the marriages are shrouded in secrecy, women are embarrassed to speak about their situations, have few supports in place, and are often forced to deal with it alone.

“You are ashamed. You feel like you are the reason behind it. I stopped socializing, interacting. I became withdrawn. People’s first impression is that if a man marries again, it’s because of the failings of the first wife,” Rigby said. “I spent a year trying to fix the problem, which I didn’t even create.”
-Lets clear up that misconception right now-islam is the cause. As long as this crime is sanctioned men will say what the hell why not? As in everything – islam benefits men at the expense of women.

It took Rigby almost two years to leave the marriage, as she struggled to figure out how she would manage as a single mother, now with five children, ages 1 to 14.

While Rigby eventually left, many women feel they don’t have the strength to do the same. A 28-year-old Mississauga mother of two said she decided to stay in her marriage, more for her kids than for herself, even after she discovered her husband had married another woman.

During the year he had two wives, he would alternate nights between the two. “It was a horrible thought. To think of your husband with another woman,” she said. But she stayed on, hopeful that he would eventually leave his new wife. “I lost trust. I lost all respect. At that point I didn’t love him. I knew he was with her. He was sleeping with her. He was doing everything with her,” said the woman, who asked that her name not be used. Eventually, he left his second wife.

While the Muslim factor may be a minor one in the larger debate around polygamy, which for years has focused on Bountiful, B.C., there is consensus on both sides that the practice will soon be forced to face a constitutional challenge.

Muslims have thought that if such a challenge on the basis of religion is launched, they would also benefit. But Nik Bala, a family law professor at Queen’s University, believes the case for Muslims is much weaker than that of the Mormons.

“In Bountiful, the argument of freedom of religion applies, since polygamy is a requirement necessary to get to heaven. Islam permits polygamy, but doesn’t require it to be a practising Muslim,” said Bala. “The freedom of religion argument doesn’t hold up as strongly.”
-Religious law should never overrule an established legal system unless the populace votes approval. Lawbreakers should be punished, muslims should be given no quarter they choose to follow the rants of a seventh century pedophile and criminal there is absolutely no reason to appease their antiquated practices.

But on both sides of the debate, the protection of women and children is considered paramount.

In Rigby’s eyes, whether polygamy is illegal or legal is irrelevant. “If it is happening and it is here, then there should be some kind of support system set up to protect us,” she said, suggesting marriage workshops or support groups for women.
-This is a two way sword you can not advocate support without prosecution.

For now, Rigby is writing a blog on her two years in a polygamous marriage. “No one wants to talk about it, but at a certain point, we’re going to have to start having that conversation.”
-Preach it sister.

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