Muslim woman picks life as a hooker over the oppression of islam.

What the heck, muslim men are obsessed with sex, if they are going to cheat on their wives-make them pay for it.

By Jo Ind, 2 Sep, 2008, the Birmingham Post
How does a woman from a traditional Muslim family end up working as a prostitute? Saira Ahmed tells Jo Ind her story.

“My family believe that I have disgraced and dishonoured them in many ways since I turned from a girl into a woman, but they know only the tiniest part of the truth. If they have found out just how I have been living for the last few years, my brothers would literally kill me, even though I did it in order to support the family financially during difficult times.”
-Some sects cover up prostitution with a weird practice of temporary marriages but reality is a slut is a slut is a slut.

These are the words of Saira Ahmed, a Muslim woman who was tricked into marriage at the age of 17. She fled from her husband and ended up working as a prostitute.
-I will make no moral judgment on prostitutes – a girl has to eat. If her life as a hooker beats life under the slavery of muslim marriage she is better off.

Tragically, this is not an unusual story. But how did it happen to Saira?

Saira was born in the Midlands 37 years ago. Her mother had come over from a small village outside Lahore to marry her father at the age of 17.

She did not know until she was married that her husband had been married before and had three children who were around her age at the time of the marriage.
-Not uncommon, muslim men change wives more than underwear. As the women age or stand up for their rights, they are cast out and islamic society doesn’t care about them. In many muslim societies the women control the money to keep the husbands under control or to allow themselves a life if castaway.

She had no status and immediately had to work endless hours in a garment factory amongst a family that was hostile to her because her husband was divorced. There was violence.
-Typical muslim thinking, punish the victim.

“Because Mum was pretty and because so many of the men gave her the bad eye there were eventually rumours that she was being unfaithful to Dad with one of his cousins,” says Saira. “Without any evidence Uncle took it upon himself to believe the rumours and to dole out the punishment that such an act demanded.
-Also typical muslim thinking, islamic honor is protected even over loyalty of family.

“I don’t believe for one moment she was guilty of the crimes she was accused of, and I doubt if Dad believed it at the time either.
-I doubt he cared he just used it as an excuse to enslave another child.

“Whatever their age, the women in families like ours are nearly always treated thoughtlessly by their men.
-This is also typical. We have run a few stories of “moderate muslim men” romancing women until they converted and then clamping down on her after marriage.

Saira was subjected to that same violence when she was growing up. Saira was eventually sent to Pakistan but when she got there she found that the family was arranging a wedding – hers.
-That line probably means she was beaten or raped by uncles, brother, father or all of them.

She did not want to marry Ahmed, the man they had lined up. She wanted to marry the man she loved, Aman.

But the family lied to her. They said Aman did not want to marry her, which was not true, though she did not know that at the time.

She was told she had to respect her family and that if she did not agree to the marriage, she would never be able to go back to Britain. Devastated, she resigned herself to the marriage.
-She had some choice; live in a muslim hell hole or the UK (a prettier muslim hell hole).

Neither she nor her husband knew how to have intercourse, but once her husband learnt how to do the sex act, he would rape her. In the end, she ran away, “stealing” her own passport and return ticket from her uncle who was guarding it and got a flight home.
-The muslim man not knowing how to have intercourse is typical. Growing up in all male schools usually means their first sexual experience is with an older male. They have no idea what to do with a female.

Back in the Midlands, Saira called a teacher at her former school who helped her get into a refuge. Her brother found out where she was and came round, beating the door down.

“I’m convinced that if he had managed to get me that night he would have killed me. In the end the matron had to call the police to have him removed,” says Saira.
-More blame the victim. His punk ass was sore from an uncle and he was angry.

Eventually, with the help of social workers, Saira was allowed back into the family home but she had to beg her brother for forgiveness for running away from her marriage first.

She got a job and became very useful to her family because she funded them. Her brothers were on drugs and in and out of prison.
-The high moral standards of muslim families is legendary (sarc)

Her parents had got into debt and her mother had borrowed money from a loan shark for a family funeral.

The family ended up tens of thousands of pounds in debt and Saira, who was working as a manager, was the only one bringing in a decent wage.

She knew her obligations as a good Muslim daughter, were to provide for her parents and she did – until she was made redundant.
-Notice her personal standards were superior to her families. She felt the need to care for them even after they abandoned her and may have wanted to honor kill her.

Saira was desperate to find a way of helping her family out of their escalating debts and she realised other Asian women she had come across were working in the escort business. One night debt collectors came round to her parent’s house and threatened her with violence, saying if she didn’t keep up the payments her family would lose their house.

“I knew then that I was going to have to do something radical if I was ever going to get these people off our backs. It almost seemed that it was a sign, sent to help me make up my mind,” says Saira.

From escort, it was a small step to full blown prostitute with all the extras. All the time Saira was handing her earnings over to her family who never asked where the money was coming from.
-I doubt the slimeballs cared.

It was only when Saira had a baby that she realised she could not carry on working as a prostitute. She considered suicide, but her love for her daughter put pay to that idea. Instead she applied for a council house and set about earning a living as a designer in the fashion industry.
-Catch that? Western values crush islam again. Anyone can overcome and prosper with a lot of work and determination.

That was five years ago and since then she has written a book telling her story.

“I’m out of that situation now,” says Saira, “but the scars of it go on mentally for years afterwards. I do break down quite often. But I’m proud to have told my story. It makes me proud that my life is out there.
-So there you have it – buy a few minutes with a muslim prostitute and save her from muslim tyranny.

“It’s taking an enormous risk because I would be slaughtered by any Muslim that knew what I had done.
-Very true, we have covered our share of murders in the name of honor stories. Under any name, it is still murder.

“But there are other girls in the same situation that I was in. I hope that reading my story will give hope to those who are feeling trapped by their cultures, showing them that it is always worth fighting for what you believe in.”
-More western values sinking in, freedom trumps cultural enslavement.

* Disgraced by Saira Ahmed (pen name) is published by Headline Review and costs £12.99

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